The days of red badges are now behind us and come back in the tranquility offered by the walls of the house, just us two and the baby, there is now plenty of time to reorganize and rethink the ideas that flood of emotions and events that have occurred since Friday evening. During the last week in the office every morning I arrived there was the first thing a colleague said to me even before " Morgon " was " child? . My answer was canonical " child är fortfarande i magen ", which is not difficult to translate as "still in the womb ... . Friday on my return from work Silvia had some pains started as early as half past three o'clock in the afternoon but we'd much weight as other false alarms had already come and gone. At half past six we thought we'd put food in your teeth if something had happened and so moved by Mark and Julie, we have a beautiful baby food kebab. Then they return home there was only time for a half hour of couch the unpredictable before it happened, why it took us by surprise, flooding of pure adrenaline: the breaking of the waters. A phone call to the hospital to announce our arrival and that the adventure begin.
During the months that preceded the arrival of Galileo also I have tried to do my best to prepare for the event of childbirth trying to read, with much less frequently than Silvia, however, the abundant material in Swedish to provide to its time in early pregnancy. Preparing Silvia instead had almost manic, I have read everything there is to be read on the internet and out, so that one day on my return from work told me: "you should absolutely see these videos. "At first I thought that childbirth was something to which his father could join you, but as in the second row, almost alien. Now I am convinced that the role of fathers is very important for the mother and what you live we do so with an intensity and a unique contribution.
So the weeks leading up to the fateful event has passed with a mixture of curiosity and expectation, but never fear, convinced that Silvia had been able to overcome every obstacle . well known is his level of endurance of pain "generic", but the unknown was still ahead of us. I then applied the method to always try to eliminate situations where stress dovuto all'incalzare degli eventi: preoccuparsi va bene un pochino, ma mai troppo, soprattutto mai fasciarsi la testa prima di essersela rotta, attendere l'evolvere degli eventi e viverli quando arrivano, affrontando le difficoltà con calma e senza farsi prendere dal panico.
La rottura delle acque, nella sua imprevidibilità è stata, dal mio punto di vista, l'unica vera situazione di stress, con l'adrenalina che a mille è partita in circolo. Ma tutto era già pronto, quindi è bastato fermarsi un attimo riordinare le idee, ricordarsi la macchina fotografica e le chiavi dell'auto.
L'arrivo in ospedale e l'ambiente che ci ha accolto hanno contribuito a mantenere tutto entro un certo limite di tranquillità and calm. We were alone in the sense that there were no other women in labor when we arrived, the barnmörskor (midwives) and sjuksjöterskor (nurses) were so quiet at night that I have "discovered" to quietly knitting.
Just before midnight we were in our room, a beautiful corner room overlooking the woods on one side. From that moment I do not remember ever sitting down, I spent all night standing but it was natural, as they passed the time and events are happening in the sequence I always felt more involved, more and more into the event . The nurses and midwives do not feel like I have never done too much rather my participation has become increasingly active with the passing of time. The "sheet of desires" where they write their own desires / wishes / fears about childbirth and that is delivered upon arrival at the hospital the nurses, had written that his father had a little 'fear of blood, and that would cut the cord (with a thousand questions).
My fears are gone according to Silvia at his side, encouraging her minute by minute as my curiosity was getting bigger so that gradually have become in practice "the nurse added." Some say that the father fainting in the delivery room, but for me it was a completely different experience, I felt stronger and stronger as they turned the clock on the wall and turned Silvia while reluctantly became increasingly tired. In the end I was not afraid of trying anything and give my mother the last forces convinced that sooner or later going to make it despite the efforts you made him feel more and more. When
then see the small little head out of the closet you realize that you are about to witness something wonderful, the birth of life and remain spellbound seeing that little helpless mammal sneak out and be placed immediately on the belly of the mother ... you can not hold back the tears and pain of the mother disappears all of a sudden to give way to joy and disbelief.
Cutting the cord was another beautiful passage that I strongly suggest to all the fathers ... not so much the act itself (it seems to cut a rubbery plastic tube) but rather because it is the time when the baby comes off permanently from her mother and begins its independent life.
The fear of blood there has never been so much that I attended the examination of the placenta and suturing of a few small notch comforting his mother on the situation ... what about ... for the mother was not at all a walk and his father was an experience that has instilled an incredible force, I felt that nothing could scalfirmi ... even the 38 hours straight without sleep ...
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